What Does Colossians 3:19 Mean?
Husbands, love your wives, and do not grow sour toward them.
Key words are shown with the Hebrew or Greek and what each word meant.
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King James wording
King James Version
Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.THE KEY
The verse places love and bitterness in the same relationship: resentment is not separate from how love is lived.
THE MEANING
Here a husband’s love for his wife sits beside the prohibition against becoming bitter toward her. The Greek verb means “be embittered,” keeping resentment tied to the way the relationship is experienced now.
WHAT THIS UNDOES
The verse undoes the idea that a husband’s love for his wife can be assessed apart from the bitterness he carries toward her.
THE ROOT
πικραίνεσθε
pikrainesthe
GROWS FROM
πικρ-
pikr-
Bitter; a taste-word that also describes an embittered state.
“do not grow sour toward” in this verse is pikrainesthe. English can make bitterness sound like a private mood; the Greek verb keeps it connected to the taste-word πικρός (pikros, “bitter”). Its form here means “be embittered,” placing that bitter state within the husband’s relationship with his wife.
ALSO GROWS
pikria: Bitterness
πικρία
Ephesians 4:31 uses this noun alongside wrath and anger, showing the same word-family naming a relational climate.
pikros: Bitter
πικρός
James 3:11 uses the adjective for bitter water, keeping the family’s concrete taste-image visible beneath its figurative use.
THE PATTERN
Love is a relational posture that does not feed the heat that turns conflict into bitterness.
A soft answer turns away the burning, but words of pain stir up the nostrils.Love does not lose its shape, does not seek its own, is not sharpened, does not keep count of harm.Let all bitterness, and boiling, and anger, and shouting, and speaking against, be lifted from you, with all wickedness.THE THREAD
And I took the little scroll out of the messenger's hand and devoured it, and in my mouth it was sweet as honey, and when I had devoured it, my belly was made sharp.Colossians uses πικραίνεσθε (pikrainesthe, “be embittered”), and Revelation uses πικράνθη (pikranthē, “became bitter”), forms of the same Greek stem πικρ- (pikr-, “bitter”). Revelation keeps the word’s taste in view, sweet in the mouth, bitter in the belly, so Colossians’ language retains its concrete edge within a relationship.
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